Following on from yesterday's blog post about how the dedicated staff at the Treetops Nursery in Henley-on-Thames get their little charges off to sleep, we've been thinking a lot about how little ones settle into nurseries, and how the care there differs from the one-to-one care at home.
And it seems to us, that the fact that so many babies and toddlers settle happily into nursery routines rather refutes the need for some of the rigorous regimes suggested by some of today's parenting gurus.
For instance, some gurus advocate totally blacked-out bedrooms; others also decree that babies should be left to cry themselves to sleep; no parent is ever encouraged to go and check on their child whilst sleeping and all babies should be placed alone in a cot from which they can't escape etc. etc.
And yet at this delightful nursery – along with so many others, I'm sure – the toddlers are placed on mattresses on the floor; the room is not totally blacked out allthough the lights are dimmed; they are most certainly not left on their own and not encouraged to cry themselves to sleep; and once the staff have stroked and patted them off to sleep they're monitored every 10 minutes to make sure they're all OK.
So strange really that so many rules and regulations are imposed on new parents via these so-called parenting 'gurus' only to be completely overturned once the child goes to nursery. Seems to suggest that children will fit in whatever and that too much stress has been dumped on too many parents who've beenn made to fear if they're not in total control things have got out of hand.